What makes a good coach?

WELLLL, I’ve agonized over this for nearly six years now and have recently had a breakthrough that is enabling me to move forward from that sticky place of self judgment.

For many of you who have been following my journey, you have seen me dip my toe in the water and talk about coaching, but then quietly recluse back into my comfortable shell of hands-on massage therapy and bodywork.

You see, I can sense things. Now, this isn’t one of those Sixth Sense “I see dead people” moments; however, I am now fully embracing my keen intuition and speaking up in my massage room when I feel called to do so.

Recently, I have been frequenting Wellspring School of Allied Health’s student clinic and met a practicing psychologist who has decided to also attend massage school. Why? Because she understands there is no separating the body from the mind when it comes to true wellbeing. Interestingly enough, I just happened to be able to provide relative perspective from the other way around since I’ve been a massage therapist for nearly 20 years and life coach for six years now.

Maybe this was some kind of professional validation I needed before lovingly stepping out of my own way. Regardless, my soul has felt called to coach for nearly a decade now.

Relativity

What has kept me from coaching? Perfectionism. As a middle-aged woman, I’ve overcome [am overcoming] my own suffering that takes all kinds of forms. For the last six years I’ve held myself to an unreasonable standard that in order to be a coach, I must have this flawless life and be THE example of complete balance and harmony. LOL!

And, let’s face the truth – I’ve literally been FEELING, with my own two hands, the impact your thoughts have on your physical body for nearly two decades now!

So, I’m over it. In fact, I had a medium in Eureka Springs tell me a couple of months ago it IS my adventurous life of learning that gives me a unique perspective when relating with my clients. In my lifetime, I have personal experience with or witnessed first-hand an incredible amount of human suffering related, but not limited, to:

• Self love and body image issues
• Addictions (from meth to sugar to emotional drama, it ALL counts)
• Setting and maintaining personal boundaries
• Overcoming fear
• Abuse (emotional, sexual and physical)
• Narcissism
• Depression and anxiety
• Cognitive distortions
• Awareness of triggers and emotional patterns
• Self sabotage
• Ethical non-monogamy
• Observing healthy attachment
• Sexual identity and exploration
• Divorce and separation
• Infidelity and manipulation
• Grieving death by suicide

As explained in the book The Four Agreements, I believe we ultimately mirror one another on this planet. Ever consider those moments you find yourself getting really irritated by someone? I bet if you give it some completely open-minded thought, you’ll find what irritates you about them is something you find irritating about yourself.

We don’t have to suffer at the hand of the narrator behind the curtain of our minds.

Let me help you break the cycle and take back your power.

If you’re ready to get serious about change and want help getting unstuck, contact me and let’s discuss a program that’s best for you.